Addiction Can Be Your Greatest Opportunity

Addiction Can Be Your Greatest Opportunity

Loving someone suffering from addiction is incredibly difficult, let’s just be real with each other. But did you know that it’s a wonderful opportunity for you?

Hear me out.

There’s a reason you were partnered with this person in your life who is suffering from drug addiction, alcoholism, pornography addiction, any kind of addiction.

There’s a reason that feeling rejected and hurt every time they choose their substance of choice over you, can be a very good thing.

I know there’s a lot of suffering going on in your life right now, I get it. I was once exactly where you are.

But can I tell you, addiction was the best thing that ever happened to me?

True, it was ridiculously painful. And there were days where I just wanted to get in bed, hide under the covers and quit.

But underneath all the pain, there was a calling stronger than addiction. A calling (or opportunity) to create a better life and I knew, the only way I could get there was to do the work. To learn how to manage the conflict. To show up and look pain and truth right in the eye and say, “I am here to learn. I am not hiding or denying. I am willing to change.”

Because here’s the secret: their addiction is not just their opportunity – it’s yours too.

Addiction serves as an opportunity because it’s here to help grow you into the person you were destined to become. It’s here to help you see where you need to heal. Where you are lacking confidence. When you might be putting others in front of yourself. Where you might be placing blame. Or when you might be hiding and remaining too comfortable.

Addiction is your launching pad, if you choose to use it.

If you want a better life, a life that truly reflects back to you your deepest dreams, then you cannot hide. You must rise and you must tell and speak the truth. Be willing to focus on you – and no longer be addicted to addiction.

You must stay in your lane, keep a quiet mouth, make hard choices, allow consequences to happen to the ones we love, stop saving and protecting them and start saving ourselves. That’s how to start ceasing your opportunity.

Start protecting the deepest part of our souls and honoring our values, our ethics and our boundaries.

But you cannot do all of that unless you are still and silent. Unless you have gifted yourself time to truly understand who you are and what you want. You can take back your power from addiction when you stop relying on someone else’s sobriety to dictate your happiness.

When you stop placing your self-worth in the hands of someone who has none of their own. You are deserving of loving yourself first, and then, only after you’ve accomplished that spectacular feat, should you consider accepting your partner’s love.  

So, let me lovingly remind you: this is your chance.

Your opportunity to remove your power from addiction. Take a deep breath every morning and do the work you’re being called to do so you can experience the transformation that’s right around the corner when you start to love and respect yourself.

Let addiction serve as your gift to love.  

Michelle Anderson

Michelle Anderson

Michelle Anderson has over 10 years of personal experience with loving someone who suffers from addiction. She was married to a good man who suffered from addiction to alcohol, illegal drugs, and pornography. She's used this experience to create this powerful community full of women in the same circumstance. Using her own personal experience, combined with years of research and studying, she presents ideas, tips, and tools on how to handle this disease, and take care of yourself, and your family.

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