The Secret to Leaving vs. Staying with Your Alcoholic Partner

Are you feeling trapped in your marriage with your alcoholic partner or a substance abuser?

You love him or her, so you want to stay in this relationship. But you’re angry, confused, and feeling hopeless.

You don’t know how much more you can take.

Have you ever threatened to leave your loved one because you want to scare him or her into getting sober? (this almost never works for long-term sobriety, so no need to try)

The idea of leaving breaks your heart and you don’t see a way out.

You cling to the good person you fell in love with. You need the best version of him or her.

On the days you lose hope that your partner will ever get sober for good, you may secretly entertain the idea of leaving.

But how would you support yourself? Where would you go? Will your children blame you for breaking apart the family? What would your family think? What would God think?

It’s not simple, is it? It’s complicated and messy.

But I’m here to remind you sweet friend:

You don’t need to make up your mind to leave or stay today.

Forgive yourself for staying and remember you reserve the right to change your mind tomorrow.

Surrender the decision and trust the process. You’ll know if it’s time to leave.

You’re not trapped – you’re just not ready to make the decision yet.

In the meantime, you need to get started working on your program.

You know I’m always going to be honest with you because I teach from experience.

And here’s the loving truth: you’re sick too. This disease has done some serious damage to you.

So, let’s focus on getting you repaired and recovered. Let’s commit to working your program.

And I used the word “work” intentionally. Feeling better takes commitment.

We need to commit to prayer, to self-care, and to being willing and open to change.

Are you ready to take your healing to the next level?

Love Over Addiction is here for you.

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