Should I Leave My Alcoholic Husband?

You are in love an alcoholic or substance abuser.  And it feels like it’s killing you to stay with him.  He drinks too much, or he uses drugs. He lies and manipulates.  Alcoholism and addiction are ruining your home.

You might wonder how this could have happened to you?  To your family?  Why do you still love someone who is addicted to drugs and alcohol?  You stay up at night wondering how you can “fix it” and help get the man you love sober once and for all.  You worry he might be right when he blames you.  You hate the way he makes you feel smaller and smaller.  And you hate feeling so angry and upset.

But you still love him (most of the time).  Even after all the painful moments.  And you still choose to stay with him.

 

ONE OF OUR GREATEST MISTAKES IS BEATING OURSELVES UP FOR LOVING AN ALCOHOLIC OR SUBSTANCE ABUSER

 

Why you love him is not important.  And you shouldn’t beat yourself up for it.  Accept it.

We love good men who are very, very sick.  Addiction effects some of the smartest, talented, and most gifted men.  And we see glimpses of that man every now and then.  That’s who we fell in love with.  We love the man God originally created them to be.  We adore that guy and all his potential.  And we would do almost anything to have that man full time.

 

FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR LOVING HIM TODAY, YOU RESERVE THE RIGHT TO CHANGE YOUR MIND TOMORROW 

 

So rather than focusing on staying or leaving the man you love, for now,  let’s just work on you.  Let’s focus on setting boundaries, learning how to stop controlling him, and how to stop enabling him.  Once you have mastered these skills you find the freedom to choose to leave or stay.

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