Welcome To The Community
Look at you! I’m so proud of you, sister. You just took a big step in your recovery. Please, take a moment to celebrate that.
Here’s the truth, when you love someone suffering from addiction, every day can feel so hard. You might feel exhaustion, or deep disappointment when they break their promises yet again.
We have women in this community that love a good person that suffers from addiction to alcohol, drugs, prescription pills, gambling, pornography, or sex, among other things. The substance of choice doesn’t really matter, because the effects are the same.
You have great intuition, and you know when they’ve been using just by the sound of their voice. You want your loved one to get sober, so you can finally have the loving, healthy relationship you crave.
You’re done with all the lies, all the sneaking around, all the deceit, and frankly all the disappointment and pain.
One important thing I want you to know...
Let’s be honest with each other, addiction can be mean. It can be nasty. It can say awful things. It assigns blame and fault, and is constantly looking for an out.
Because of this, it’s easy to feel out of control and be angry, yet feel so lonely.
In this community (your sisterhood) we acknowledge that, but then we harness our power to make changes. We are positive, smart women. And we won’t stand by any longer.
There's one very important thing I want you to know. Are you ready?
Sister, please read every word of this, and know that in the depths of your heart, it is true: this is not your fault. None. Of. It.
This disease does a really good job of blaming us. But it’s not true.
Anytime you’re feeling like this is your fault, come back here, and read these words of truth. Say it to yourself while you’re looking in the mirror: “This is not my fault. I did nothing to deserve this.”
Being blamed, feeling undeserving, and having addiction tell me this was my fault are all parts of the reason I created this community and the Love Over Addiction online program.
Addiction does lie to us. It does blame us. And it tells us it’s our fault. That we’re undeserving of happiness.
When we’re in our lonely isolated worlds, it’s easy to believe such things. I know I did.
Our Community, Your Sisterhood
As you may know, once you join any of our online programs, you’ll receive a personal invitation to join our Secret Facebook Group. Inside the secret group, our community thrives. These women, they're just amazing. They absolutely blow my mind everyday when I go into the groups.
They are wise, tenacious, positive, strong, fun women. They’re brave. They have partners suffering from addiction at all different stages of the disease.
They have children of all ages, they work, they go to school, they raise the family on their own. Some have left their relationships, while others have decided to stay for now.
We have women of all ages - older, wiser women that have been married to someone suffering from addiction for 50+ years. And younger women, eager to learn that aren’t married yet.
We have women of all different faiths, all different backgrounds, and from all parts of the world. We never do judgment and welcome any woman with open arms. This is truly a safe community.
I remember when things got really bad, I started searching online for answers. I found message boards (yes, that tells you how old I am), and let me tell you, they were terrible. They were so negative. I would go onto the message boards and it’d just be war story after war story. I felt worse after reading the message boards than I did before.
Our community is different. It’s positive. We acknowledge the difficulty of addiction because it is hard. There are no two ways about that. But we don’t wallow in that fact.
Instead, we take a stand, together. We work on our own recovery, regardless of whether they’re under the influence or not.
We prepare ourselves for the situations we know will come our way. We share victories, ask for advice, and use each other as a support network when things are really bad.
Each one of us has our story, and each one of us has our healing. We invite you to come together and share yours with like-minded women, who understand exactly what you’re going through.
Meet The Team
I hope you feel welcomed to our community. And that you feel like you know what’s going on around here.
On that note, you may have noticed that I’ve referred to “we” a lot. You may be wondering who “we” are.
We’re a small team of women who are passionate about the mission of Love Over Addiction. Everyone on the team has some personal experience with addiction, and we’re all here for the same reason: YOU.
We want every woman in need to be able to find help, even if it’s not from us.
So without further ado, here is our core team:
Laurie is the queen of the inbox and all things customer service. Anytime you email us at Info@LoveOverAddiction.com, she’s your woman. Now, I do read all the emails, and she’ll pass specific requests on to me right away, but she’ll be the one that usually answers your emails. If you join any of our programs, you’ll get to know her in the Secret Facebook Group, too.
She’s truly amazing. She reads all of your emails with love and care, and responds from the bottom of her heart. She’s one of the most empathetic women I’ve ever met. I hope you’ll love her, too.
Jo is the Director of Operations. She handles all things technical: our emails, the member’s site, texting, anything that involves some system that I have no idea about, she handles. She knows this stuff inside and out, and she loves it. If you’re a member of the Stay or Go program, you’ll see she has a video showcasing her organizational brain there, and you’ll hear her voice on the podcast from time to time.
Brittany is the CEO. She manages all the projects, all the numbers, and all the people. Anything that’s going on in the business, she’s in the know, and making important decisions to move us along. She’s incredibly detail-oriented, manages the team like a pro, and keeps track of the many things we have going on at one time. The business wouldn’t run without her, that’s for sure!
And then, of course, there’s me, Michelle. I do all the original writing and content creation. I create all the programs, record the podcasts, and write the blog posts. Researching, reading, and writing are my passions, and I’m so pleased I spend my days doing so. I also spend time with our community in our Secret Facebook Groups. I do regular Facebook Lives there, Q&A calls, and small groups to answer questions or teach about specific topics. It’s so much fun; I’m absolutely in love with our community.
We work with other women and other teams for special projects, but this is your core Love Over Addiction team.
There's one more thing I want to say about these women. I know that your trust has been broken, and I want to assure you that these are safe women. I hand-picked each one of them to join the team, and I trust them beyond the shadow of a doubt. I do hope that you can, too.
Again, welcome to your community. You can except to see an email from us each week with the latest free podcast episode and free content.
We'll also keep you up to date on our online programs and other exciting news we have to share from time to time.
We're so happy you're here.
Love Over Addiction Podcast
We offer many additional free resources for women that want to learn more about the Love Over Addiction movement, and what we believe and teach.
I’ll start with our most favorite free resource: The Love Over Addiction Podcast. It’s totally free, and you can listen and subscribe anywhere you listen to podcasts. We release an episode each week (usually on Mondays).
When you listen to the episodes, you’ll hear personal stories, interviews, advice from the community (your sisterhood), real tips and tools you can use in your relationship, and yes, maybe even a little laughter and fun.
Because let’s be honest: addiction can be dark, depressing, and lonely. I felt completely isolated for ten long years. That’s why we’re here. We’re here so you don’t have to experience what I did.
Blog & Website
We love creating free content for you to help you along as you're loving someone suffering from addiction. We're here to be a constant reminder that you're not alone and that you can take back power that addiction may have stolen from you.
We have regular posts on our blog (usually on Mondays), where you can read tips, find help, and hear stories.
Beyond that, check back to our website regularly, because we make free guidesheets and other free resources for you all the time.
When you’re ready to dive deeper into your recovery, we offer four online programs. All of our programs are completely confidential, and can be done online in the privacy of your own home (or wherever you choose) using your phone, computer, or tablet.
So you may be wondering - which program is right for me? Well, I’m so glad you asked.
Here’s a quick summary (and I could talk about these for days, so I’ll try to keep it short):
Love Over Addiction
This is perfect for you if you’re just starting your own recovery. It’s possible you’ve seen a therapist or talked to a few close friends or family members about what’s going on. You may have even been to family recovery meetings. You may feel unhappy, lost, alone, not sure what to do or where to turn. You may be unsure how to handle certain situations, but you know you need help and answers.
Love Over Addiction: Stay or Go
This program is perfect for you if you’ve graduated the Love Over Addiction online program or done extensive work on your own recovery, and now you’re ready to think about your future. You’re ready to have the knowledge you need to make a decision, either now or later. You’re not looking to be persuaded one way or the other, or to be told what to do. You know it’s time to consider your options or solidify the decision you may already know in your heart.
Love Over Boundaries
This program is the perfect compliment to our other programs, or a great place to start if finances are a concern. You'll learn how to put boundaries in place and learn how to enforce them. You may know that boundaries are key (and if you don’t, we’ll teach you why), but you may be unsure of the difference between boundaries and threats, how the heck to enforce them, and what to do when your partner isn’t cooperating.
Love Over Mistakes
Do you ever count their drinks, mark bottles, search for their stashes or check their pants pockets? There’s no shame here sister, I did too. If you feel you’re making common mistakes (or want to make sure you’re not), this program is for you. You’ll learn 7 of the most common mistakes you could be making that are causing harm to your relationship, and maybe even enabling your loved one.