Why Anger Is Okay (And How To Use It For Good)

Why Anger Is Okay (And How To Use It For Good)

We all feel anger, and it’s no wonder. But here’s the thing: Anger can be a good thing. We can find ways to use our anger (and rage at times) for good. There’s no need to shove down our anger and act like it doesn’t exist. That’s not a healthy thing to do, especially when we love someone suffering from addiction.

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Why Anger is Okay

The dance between guilt and anger. 

When you love someone suffering from addiction, it can leave you feeling crazy. But instead of judging ourselves for feeling guilty or angry, let’s take a quick look at why we feel these emotions with open hearts and open minds. 

The rage is your internal alarm clock reminding you that things are not okay and you must do something different. 

Anger is okay because it’s like your internal alarm clock.

Break the unhealthy cycles, take action so that you can get unstuck. 

Now, for those of you who meditate or pray, that’s good. Definitely keep doing those practices, but it is not enough. 

Now I know hearing that might ruffle some feathers, but hear me out.

When you get direction from a source greater than yourself, take it. After you’ve been still and listened for instructions or ideas.

Anger is okay because it can move us into taking action.

I promise most of what you’re being called to do is uncomfortable, and you will come up with ways to avoid making difficult decisions. 

But I am here to be your biggest fan and cheerleader. I’m here to tell you that you can do this. And this community is here to help you. 

You have an army of people who are just like you, who have gone before you and are ready to pour into you and give you attention and direction. 

But nothing will change, my friend, without making scary decisions. 

For some of you, that will mean moving out or making an appointment with the lawyer. 

And others, it will mean driving to the bank and opening up an account with just your name on it. 

For some of you, it will mean telling your son or daughter that you will no longer be giving them money. 

And others it will be blocking your family member from your phone. 

Or if you are the very beginning of your recovery from loving someone suffering from addiction, it may be admitting they really do have a problem and making an appointment with a therapist. 

There are thousands of us in this safe and loving group, and we are being called to do many different things. 

We’re all being called to do different things.

So make sure you take time today to get still, breathe, and listen. And if you hear nothing, just keep doing that. 

The answers will come, and again, they might surprise you. 

The answers might sound scary, but this is the path for your life. 

Follow it, and your anger will melt away as you move towards joy.

Michelle Anderson

Michelle Anderson

Michelle Anderson has over 10 years of personal experience with loving someone who suffers from addiction. She was married to a good man who suffered from addiction to alcohol, illegal drugs, and pornography. She's used her experience to create powerful resources for women in the same circumstance. Using her own personal experience, combined with years of research and studying, she presents ideas, tips, and tools on how to handle this disease, and take care of yourself, and your family.

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